Humans are beautifully diverse. We think differently, learn differently, behave differently and communicate differently. So, naturally, every time two or more people come together, the space between them has its very own flavour.
One of the reasons we communicate is to bring us closer to each other. Intimacy emerges from this closeness — into-me-you-see.
Some people may consider themselves sapiosexual, meaning they're attracted to intelligence. Perhaps you can identify with that, or perhaps not, but you likely experience different types of attraction, and, therefore, the different types of intimacy that follow.
Eros is the drive to create, to bring things together. When we talk about Eros, we often talk about sexual Eros, but it really implies a flow of energy that brings life; it's the drive that’s behind creativity, emotional or mental connections, too.
There can be an erotic charge between two minds — have you experienced this before? Perhaps you've felt when you've met someone for the first time like you have so much to say, like you could keep talking all day and night and never run out of steam?
Or, do you have people in your life who you just love a good debate with — where you feel free to express what you think and know your opinions are being heard and valued? This kind of dialogue — from the Greek dialogos, to see through to meaning — is stimulating and fosters intimacy. Through it, you get to know things about yourself, realize things you wouldn’t have realized alone, explore angles that you wouldn't have otherwise considered...
Not only are you becoming more intimate with the other person — their ideas, thoughts and unique expression — you’re also becoming more intimate with yourself, and with life itself.
Ellowen is an Irish musician, priestess and warrior of Love, with a devotion to everyday creativity, landing temples and bringing Lua culture to the world through many magical mediums. Find her at @thisisellowen & www.ellowen.life
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